I believe there is a way to change it.
Something like the way you change it to unlock everything with only one touch of the unlock button, instead of two.
Probably something like pull the key out of the ignition a hundred times, and then shift into 3rd.
Problem is, it's not the stock alarm system, it's one the dealer installed (and they haven't sent me the damn manual for it yet!), so I don't even really know what it is.
It's from (or at least ensured by) National Security, but I can't find any info on them either
I think I'll see if the dealership where I got it is on the way when I go to San Diego tomorrow. Else I'll wait til Monday and give them another call