out of the two you mentioned..get veilside.
i'm not exactly a fan of veilside but i'm no fan of the TRD
kit at all. it's not that it's a bad kit..it's just that it's a factory option and people that have no interest whatsoever in the aftermarket world can drive around with one..including your 60+ year old neighbor just trying to be young again. the TRD
kit is definately overused..veilside for sure.
but why the choice between the 2? they are totally different. TRD
is the highest of all the boydkits, made of Urethane, and has a semi-aggressive look to it.
veilside is low, Fiberglass, and is extremely aggressive. to each his own..but it's kind of hard to compare the two.
have you looked into the kaminari kits or the ww lip kit? even the rmm kit could be comparable to the height of the TRD
and match its aggressiveness.